It's been an insane week and mid life crisis? lol
Friday 22 September - Adrian and I welcome our first house guest since we wrote our open email and take Adrienne to Corso Italia
Saturday and Sunday - Adrian and I giggle, talk, relax and just have a tv marathon that started on Friday.
Monday - Have a delightful chat with Frank at Tim Hortons, recieve phone call from cousin about family and parental response to blog, have problems speaking, standing and breathing..contact Tracs to take tomorrow off
Tuesday - write first draft of apology, but blogger won't publish it, search for family doctor and see doctor briefly in walk in clinic, find school keys, Adrian is starting to sick
Wednesday - Reprimanded by Department Head for sick day and mark entry sheets, feel like I can only breate with one lung, Adrian starts to feel sick, strange discussion in staff room about estranged parents and children and how people would feel in different scenarios (didn't realize my situation was so common, but after hearing other people stories it is interesting)
Thursday -Reprimaded by Vice Principal for sick day, Adrian grows more concerned about me and we want to really find a family doctor, Adrian takes the day off school because he is sick
Friday - still have no real idea what I did wrong at work, but taking genuine efforts to fix it. I have tried to send open invitation to parents, but just cannot do it...must be conditional.
So what is with the mid life crisis?
I just can't seem to take complete accountablity for my family or work. Let us begin with my family since it is the number one topic people discuss with me. I always begin the conversation by making it clear that my parents and I love and care for each other deeply. I never once questioned their devotion to me or how much they love and care for me. I just don't think they are capable of attending the wedding at the moment. Once it is well established that everyone in my family loves each other, then I explain why I don't think they are capable of going. I end the conversation by mentioning that if they can start by taking some steps to prove they are capable of attending the wedding, I am very open to inviting them.
They could begin by simply inviting Adrian and I out for a chat and tea or dinner. This would indicate that they can at least tolerate us as a couple in the same room. Once we all have a jolly time, then they can move on to a more bigger event or simply inviting us out more often as a couple and take a genuine interest in getting to know their future son in law. Once we had enough of these visits and I feel like they can handle a bigger event like a wedding, I will add them to the guest list. I mention my parents making the first move, because Adrian and I have spent two years making moves trying to repair our relationship with them and I think that my parents need to take accountability for their actions not me.
As for my work, it really doesn't make any sense. I told both my bosses that I had trouble speaking and breathing, which is why I typed the instructions for the supply teacher. They both knew I was teaching Romeo and Juliet and that the class will be performing it on oct 2. The part that made them most upset is that I chose to show a video of Romeo and Juliet. They think that videos lead to chaos and anarchy (well that was the gist of it anyway). So now I know no videos! They want full fledged lesson plans with heaps of work that that supply teacher or students will not be able to get through it all. Got it! : ) I may not truly understand what I did that was so wrong, but at least I can learn from it : )
Saturday and Sunday - Adrian and I giggle, talk, relax and just have a tv marathon that started on Friday.
Monday - Have a delightful chat with Frank at Tim Hortons, recieve phone call from cousin about family and parental response to blog, have problems speaking, standing and breathing..contact Tracs to take tomorrow off
Tuesday - write first draft of apology, but blogger won't publish it, search for family doctor and see doctor briefly in walk in clinic, find school keys, Adrian is starting to sick
Wednesday - Reprimanded by Department Head for sick day and mark entry sheets, feel like I can only breate with one lung, Adrian starts to feel sick, strange discussion in staff room about estranged parents and children and how people would feel in different scenarios (didn't realize my situation was so common, but after hearing other people stories it is interesting)
Thursday -Reprimaded by Vice Principal for sick day, Adrian grows more concerned about me and we want to really find a family doctor, Adrian takes the day off school because he is sick
Friday - still have no real idea what I did wrong at work, but taking genuine efforts to fix it. I have tried to send open invitation to parents, but just cannot do it...must be conditional.
So what is with the mid life crisis?
I just can't seem to take complete accountablity for my family or work. Let us begin with my family since it is the number one topic people discuss with me. I always begin the conversation by making it clear that my parents and I love and care for each other deeply. I never once questioned their devotion to me or how much they love and care for me. I just don't think they are capable of attending the wedding at the moment. Once it is well established that everyone in my family loves each other, then I explain why I don't think they are capable of going. I end the conversation by mentioning that if they can start by taking some steps to prove they are capable of attending the wedding, I am very open to inviting them.
They could begin by simply inviting Adrian and I out for a chat and tea or dinner. This would indicate that they can at least tolerate us as a couple in the same room. Once we all have a jolly time, then they can move on to a more bigger event or simply inviting us out more often as a couple and take a genuine interest in getting to know their future son in law. Once we had enough of these visits and I feel like they can handle a bigger event like a wedding, I will add them to the guest list. I mention my parents making the first move, because Adrian and I have spent two years making moves trying to repair our relationship with them and I think that my parents need to take accountability for their actions not me.
As for my work, it really doesn't make any sense. I told both my bosses that I had trouble speaking and breathing, which is why I typed the instructions for the supply teacher. They both knew I was teaching Romeo and Juliet and that the class will be performing it on oct 2. The part that made them most upset is that I chose to show a video of Romeo and Juliet. They think that videos lead to chaos and anarchy (well that was the gist of it anyway). So now I know no videos! They want full fledged lesson plans with heaps of work that that supply teacher or students will not be able to get through it all. Got it! : ) I may not truly understand what I did that was so wrong, but at least I can learn from it : )
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